Mirror, Mirror

If layering can create a really great outfit, today’s layer is going to up the ante the way a faux fur jacket would - just saying. If you read the post the other day about the things we say to ourself (usually subconsciously) when we step in front of the year, that’s going to seem like “cute, must have, or trending” if we were talking about clothes. In short - changing how you talk to yourself when you step in front of the mirror is phase one of self love and acceptance - today we’re moving onto phase two. And I should preface, perhaps the mot transformational exercise I have EVER done in my life. Ready?

I want you to think about the statement you say over and over to yourself. The one you KNOW isn’t serving you or leading to you feeling like your best self. The one you know isn’t kind and that you would never say to someone you loved. Got it? Great. Need some terrible inspiration? It might sound like: you aren’t enough, you are weak, you are dumb (inspo from my grade 7 volleyball practice) - you get the drift.

Now to get this really right you need to give yourself time and space. In short - an empty household (a miracle in itself I know), but it’s necessary because if you don’t, you’ll be too worried someone is going to hear you (you’re getting nervous aren’t you).

Take that statement and go and sit in front of the mirror. I say sit because our body tends to be in a more relaxed physical shape. Don’t worry about posture or sitting up tall. Just sit. Look yourself in the mirror and say your statement out loud - NOT in your head. Keep saying it. Over, and over, and over - until it breaks you. If it doesn’t - you aren’t allowing yourself to “go there” and truly feel it. That is what is happening day in and day out when you say that statement to yourself. Inside you are breaking just a little bit each and every single time - chipping away at and breaking down who you REALLY are. Has it hit you yet?

Once you’ve had “that moment” - that breakthrough with your negative bullsh*t statement I want you to switch it to the positive version: I am…..

What usually happens? A smile appears. Maybe even laughter for realizing how ridiculous the first statement sounded. Your body softens. You feel better. And when you feel that feeling in your body you can’t unfeel it. Hold onto that feeling and the next time those bullsh*t statements start to rear their ugly head - flip it and go back to that feeling you just felt. That’s the one you want to hold onto.

As always, thanks for choosing to be here.

Susan