Wake Up to What You are Saying
I’ve worked with hundreds (approaching a thousand - whoop whoop!) of women 1:1 over the past few years and just when I think I’ve heard it ALL in terms of what you say to yourself when you step in front of the year, you don’t up with something new I’ve never heard before. If you’ve been someone who has ever said something not so positive about yourself in my presence you’ll know that I waste NO time cutting you off. The scary part is that I know it doesn’t just stop there.
We could break down this topic in so many ways: how you talk about yourself to others, the words you choose to make yourself smaller when you communicate, how you can’t accept a compliment, you get the drift. But I want to focus on this: how you talk to yourself. Because I gotta tell you, you could do better. A LOT better. But I digress.
There are a few approaches you can have in your back pocket, ready to go when those less than positive statements try to rear their ugly head. Ready?
Stop the statement in it’s tracks and tell yourself it isn’t true, and then replace it with something positive about yourself. If you need any suggestions: kind, beautiful, funny….I’ll leave it with you to decide.
Ask yourself who you would be without that thought……and I’m going to take this a step further by asking you how that thought, statement, or dare I say belief adds to your confidence and feeling good about yourself. It’s a trick question - it doesn’t.
If you are repeatedly saying less than positive and kind things to yourself, THAT is what you are filling yourself up with. And feeling good and full of confidence will never be found when your mind is in that space. Friend - you are wasting SO much of your time, energy and life focusing on all of the things you aren’t (ah hm, the negative self talk) instead of focusing on all of the things you are.
Bonus round: go and stand in front of the mirror and say something nice to yourself.
As always, thanks for choosing to be here.
Susan