Ask For What You Want

I once had a boss who used to say: Don’t mince your words. What she really meant by that was: say what you want to say. And she was right. Was I a little bit terrified of her at times (most of the time) - yes. But I can confidently say that over a decade later her statement of “don’t mince your words” still sticks in my mind and is something I rely on what I catch myself toning down my message to be one more palatable.

Much like how we start our emails and texts with an apology or lean on other approaches to soften our overall message - we rarely ask for what we want. Instead we lean on hope or subtle messages instead of just coming out and asking for it. I know, terrifying right?

But what if you did? Ask for what you wanted that is. Instead of hoping, or hinting, or sending subtle messages. What if you were direct without toning down your message. What would be the outcome?

Can I tell you something? I think the outcome would be what you want.

But I get it, going from how you communicate to flat out asking for it probably feels a bit scary. Also when the internal dialogue and narrative usually turns into: but what will they think (more on they tomorrow). Question for you: what do you want more: getting what you want or worrying about what some hypothetical person thinks. I think you know the answer.

Want to put it to the test? Next time you catch yourself hoping, or hinting, or sending subtle messages - instead just ask for what you want.

As always, thanks for choosing to be here.

Susan